Are You Afraid of Success?

Are You Afraid of Success?

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It’s easy to understand having a fear of failure, but does it even make sense to have a fear of success?

If you ask 1,000 people if they want to be happy, successful and loved what will they say?
Of course. Trivial right?

When it comes to taking action, how can we explain that people’s behavior is often inconsistent with attaining these virtues?
They don’t strive for their goals, practice gratitude or even feel like they deserve happiness in the first place.

Sound ridiculous?

Check out today’s video as I explain why it’s not only possible, but normal. And most importantly what you can do about it NOW to break the pattern and start living your dreams.

Your turn. Are you afraid of success? What limiting beliefs have hindered your ability to take action?
Join the conversation by leaving a comment below.

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Cheers guys!
Alec

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4 Comments

  • Stephen Beyer October 29, 2014 6:36 am

    This topic is the root of it all. Action follows thought. Visualization. Manifestation. Believing in Yourself. That’s all there is to it! But man is it hard! All the study and work on your game is pointless though without a true belief that your deserve to be successful.

    It’s strange (mystical) how it works but I could tell you before each session if I’m going to be successful or not and am usually accurate, yet I still choose to play sometimes when I feel it’s not going to be a good one, a fear you could say. Why do we do this!? This is my focus right now.

    Thoughts?

    • Alec October 29, 2014 1:23 pm

      Hey Stephen,

      Great thoughts, thanks so much for sharing.

      I can totally relate to what you are saying about understanding our own feelings and success prior to each session. That has been a constant thing I’ve been working on and have really honed in on those skills the past few years.

      I think we play anyway because we try to override those feelings, convincing ourselves that logic supersedes feeling (as we are taught to do while analyzing poker hands for example).
      I also believe we understand our own energy, mood and feelings on a subconscious level which give us that ‘feeling’ of how we are going to do. It’s similar to our bodies telling us we need rest, or what foods we need to eat to thrive. It’s powerful if we truly listen.

      We’ll discuss this more during our next lesson as well. Looking forward to it.
      Alec

  • Marko K December 7, 2014 4:38 pm

    Interesting video. I love being in comfort zone and it’s holding me down in many things in life, but let’s use poker as an example: I have been playing mid-stakes tournaments for some time now and every time my comfort zone seems to win after all(I go back to same stakes after a while, because I’m 100% in my comfort zone and it’s easy).
    I personally believe I could beat higher stakes, but I just don’t seem to be in the mood to play higher stakes very often, I always have some good excuse. I don’t give myself chance to be more successful, am I afraid of success or just a challenge? I know I can beat mid-stakes and probably higher stakes, but how do you keep challenging yourself day after day? It’s so exhausting after all! At least that’s how I feel about it. I think that’s also reason why poker is becoming more boring, It’s not challenge playing the same stakes, which you know you can beat. In order to have passion for something, you really need a challenge as well. I think I have passion for this, but I’m just too locked in my comfort zone and doing something I know I will make OK living, but this way I will never achieve make my true potential.

    • Alec December 8, 2014 3:14 pm

      Hey Marko,

      Great insight. I’m glad you’re taking the time to self reflect and be introspective. That’s where improvement happens.

      In order to keep yourself motivated you have to keep making poker fun. Boredom starts when learning stops. Never stop learning … find ways to be creative and challenge yourself in poker. Do math problems, crunch numbers, watch videos and get inspired.

      In addition, I cannot over state the importance of goal setting. Goals are a huge part of my success in poker, and not only liberate me to enjoy the process of playing, but keep me grounded in purpose and always striving to achieve new heights. Attach your poker playing to a purpose (ideally something greater than yourself, such as a charity, supporting a family, or wanting to purchase a house) and your poker playing will never be the same.

      Hope that helps! Now go crush it.
      Alec

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